What are some ways that you verbalize your love to your spouse? (Week 15)

January 29, 2010 by admin · Leave a Comment
Filed under: 50 fridays, Marriage

What you say to your partner and how you say it, is the single most important influence on your relationship. Your love life will sink or swim according to how well you communicate. – Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, in Love Talk

What are some ways that you verbalize your love to your spouse? What words do you enjoy hearing from your spouse?

Several thousand years ago, the world’s wisest man wrote these words, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.” (Proverbs 18:21). The third chapter of the book of James speaks about the damage that our words can do. As we get older, we realize that the nursery rhyme was wrong, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Especially in our marriages, most of us would prefer sticks and stones over harmful words!

Words can hurt. But words can also heal.

There’s a lot of hope and healing in the following words:

I love you.

I’m sorry.

Let’s hang out.

I miss you.

I miss us.

You look great!

I love being with you.

Please forgive me.

I really like being with you.

Whoops! My bad.

You’re the best.

I’ve been selfish.

Hurry home!

We need to talk.

When we started the 50 Fridays Challenge, we committed to intentionally growing intimacy in our marriages. One way to do that well is to let your words be life-giving to your spouse. How often are you speaking words that encourage and build up your spouse? Are you intentional in growing a vocabulary that communicates love and respect? As you’re thinking about this, let Ephesians 4:15 be your guide and “speak the truth in love” to your spouse.

Jeff Helton

Marriage and Family Pastor

+ Fellowship Bible Church

+ 50 Fridays Challenge